Sad things happen

[DLee25]

Today, I didn't go to school because I was sick, but we basically didn't have school today. A girl in my grade committed suicide last night. It is pretty shocking, I talked to her at the end of the day yesterday.

Has anyone else gone through something similar?

[diehardnorthsider]

Well sort of.

Back in high school this kid I knew tried hooking me up with his girlfriend's friend. Well on the day of our date a family friend showed up at our place and I had to cancel the date.

There were no hard feelings and we talked once and a while when we ran into eachother. About 6 months later she was hit and killed by a drunk driver on her way home from work.

[ryno4ever]

One of my dear friends, the summer before I started high school, was riding his bike home from where he was working and he was hit and killed by a car.... the day before, I had just told him how lucky I was to have him for a friend as he was one of the nicest guys I knew. It was hard (as my class only had 33 kids in it), so we were all close. It's hard to put into words the feelings...numb, sad, shock, disbelief. I didn't cry...couldn't cry... for days. It all sunk in when I went to the visitation and saw him. I couldn't stop crying after that. I also had two friends, who were twins, killed five years apart from each other...on the exact day.

That is so sad about your schoolmate. Were you close friends with her?

[Sheffield_&_Waveland]

My highschool class actualy lost somebody every year from Freshman year through Senior year. There was a kid that wasn't the most stand out person in society he was constantly the one that was in the middle of all the drama, fights, drugs, gangs...etc. Definatly not somebody that I would associate myself with but I had high respect for the guy just for the fact that he wasn't dealt a real good hand of cards to play. Both parents were low lifes that could care less or shall I say that didn't even realize they had a son. This kid was actually held back his Freshman year in highschool and gained my respect for the fact that most people at that age that had half the life this kid did would have been discouraged enough to throw their hands in the air and drop out but he tuffed it out and actually made it through his 5th year in highschool and was ready to walk across the stage and receive his diploma. The way our Graduation day went, we had to report to school in the morning for about a 2 hour walk through of the graduation ceremony and then we were free to go until graduation that evening. This kid arrived at the morning for graduation practice, left and was struck head on by a trash truck. What a terrible thing considering the one thing that he never gave up on in life he was still unable to finish. That taught me many things and the most important was that it can really end in the blink of an eye so make sure you live your life to the point if a terrible tragedy was to happen that you will be happy with the life you live. Live life to the fullest its a beutiful thing.

[ryno4ever]

There is nothing sadder than having to go to a funeral of a young kid or teen/adult. A kid that was a year younger than me in school... he was one of the top kids in his class, Prom King, sports star all through high school. His day of graduation, he threw the discus down at the State Track Meet in Charleston, FLEW (in a plane) back home (as it was over a 7 hour drive) with just an hour to spare before he walked across the stage to get his diploma. A month later, after he graduated, he was diagnosed with leukemia. He fought a tough battle for nine months before he died. It was hard to watch, and after seeing that, I would almost wish that if someone is going to have to die young, that they don't have to suffer as he did the last nine months of his life.

[Ivy Killa]

I've lost way too many friends....3 in one single car wreck (2 of which were brothers), another hung himself in county lockup, 1 had a heart attack (and she was only 27), They just found the remains of this one guy i used to know, he had been missing for over a year....but it's the 3 in the car wreck that hurt the most.

[DLee25]

its just a shock, everything.

[Ivy Killa]

and it will continue to be that way, at least it was for me...i couldnt friggin believe it, any of it. The 3 that died in the wreck, i was completely shocked and in disbelief untill i went to the funeral. If you have an oppurtunity to attend the funeral maybe it will offer you some sort of closure....i'm very sorry for your loss.

[HOLYCOW!25]

There's this girl who goes to my school, she's in my class, and last year she was in my gym class. She actually sat right next to me when coach would be taking attendance. I didn't talk to her that much or anything, but we had a few talks here and there, and she was a nice girl. I just found out a few weeks ago that she has bone cancer, which from what I hear is one of the hardest cancers to treat.

And last year, I found out that this kids dad in my school had killed himself. And I went to gradeschool with this kid, and my mom is actually the godmother of his youngest sister. And this kid was already a little messed up, so this really messed him up even more.

[DLee25]

I am pretty sure 80% of my class will be attending the funeral including myself. I didn't know her that well, but I know it's important to go. She always put a smile on peoples faces, because she had one herself.

Today I just learned that my football coach (from this year) has lymphnod cancer (excuse my mispelling) he already has subs for his classes because he has to go through treatment. Pretty bad week.

[ryno4ever]

I am pretty sure 80% of my class will be attending the funeral including myself. I didn't know her that well, but I know it's important to go. She always put a smile on peoples faces, because she had one herself.

Today I just learned that my football coach (from this year) has lymphnod cancer (excuse my mispelling) he already has subs for his classes because he has to go through treatment. Pretty bad week.

It is nice that you are going, even if you didn't know her very well. It will mean the world to her family. Right now, they are going through the hardest thing they will probably ever have to deal with. You guys are going to be one of the few things they will have left to link you with their daughter. The friend of mine that died, his mom gave us each a white rose at our graduation to symbolize his love for us and how he should have been there with us. She sat in the front row and just cried. It is something they will be dealing with for a long time.

[DLee25]

It will definitely take a chip out of there heart, as she is no longer here.

It is just sad, that she was that sad to do it. Especially if in her heart she thought noone could help or love or care about her.

[scuba]

Sorry for your loss, DLee. Sad to think people are that unhappy that they want to kill themselves. I was a friend with a guy in high school and then we went our separate ways the first couple years of college. He showed up where I was working one day. It was good to see him, but then he preceded to tell me how the girl he had dated for quite some time committed suicide shortly before our meeting. I felt so bad for him and he had no idea she would even think about doing something like that. He wasn't exactly the ladies man and then for that to happen to him was crazy. Life is such a great gift, I just can't imagine killing myself.

[DLee25]

Today was the funeral, it was crazy. SO many students there, which I understand. It was probably the saddest thing in a long time. But we have to move on now that its over iwth

[ryno4ever]

Today was the funeral, it was crazy. SO many students there, which I understand. It was probably the saddest thing in a long time. But we have to move on now that its over iwth

What is really sad is here this girl felt so alone and hopeless, that she chose her way out...not realizing how many lives she touched, which is obvious with the number of students who went to the funeral.

[scuba]

Well, I'm sure she is in a better place now and doesn't have to worry about be sad or unhappy anymore. Try to take some solice in that, DLee, as hard as I know that will be to do.

[ryno4ever]

Okay, so I thought of this message just now. My best friend just called me to tell me that one of our friends was found dead today in his bathtub with a self-inflicted gunshot to the head. No one saw this coming. He was always the life of the party (he brought a blow up doll as a date to my best friend's wedding when his date came down with the flu the night before the wedding). He always seemed so ahppy.... He was a die hard Cub and Bear fan. May you rest in peace, Girth!

[DLee25]

Okay, so I thought of this message just now. My best friend just called me to tell me that one of our friends was found dead today in his bathtub with a self-inflicted gunshot to the head. No one saw this coming. He was always the life of the party (he brought a blow up doll as a date to my best friend's wedding when his date came down with the flu the night before the wedding). He always seemed so ahppy.... He was a die hard Cub and Bear fan. May you rest in peace, Girth!

Wow, sorry to hear the loss man.

[ryno4ever]

Wow, sorry to hear the loss man.

Thanks. I hadn't talked to him in awhile...but the memories I have of him make me smile! I just wish i had known he was so unhappy! I just visited his myspace page, and gosh, the hints there make me sick to my stomach! He changed his song to "End of the Line".... he last logged in yesterday.... just so weird, you know? He just seemed like a person LEAST likely to do something like take his own life. Weird how just the other day I was giving you condolences...and it has turned around quickly. Just everything seems so surreal right now...just weird.

[DLee25]

Yeah I am really sorry about that.

Now, we feel sort of the same way. But can you atleast say that music can do this to your mind? People commit suicide because of the music they listen to is depressing. The girl that died at my school loved james blunt, and even played it at her funeral. They also played "I can only imagine" by mercyme. It was pretty crazy, that is when I got teary.

Sorry I havn't been posting alot around here as I havn't been in the best mood this past week. But I havn't forgot about you guys, it's one thing that makes my day go quicker, is this place. Plus you don't post like idiots :) most of you, jk.

[ryno4ever]

Hey, understandable, DLee!

I don't think music did it to him.... I believe he was lonely. He was always the life of the party... every girl's "best friend"...but never really the guy the girl "liked". Now that we are all getting older (30's, btw), and everyone has started or is starting their families, I just think the loneliness took him over. Before I had my son, I was always out on the weekends, and even some weeknights. Whether it be at a bar or just "hanging out" on Main Street... but after I had my son, I rarely make it out, and when I do, I'm too darn tired to stay out all night like I used to. I know a lot of our friends are the same way, too...and so when you don't have anyone and your friends aren't as accessible as they used to be, loneliness can definately take over, I guess.

Hang in there, DLee...It will get easier. Since this is not the first friend I have lost, but it is the first friend I have lost to suicide, I kinda really know how you feel. So many questions...so many "What if i would have done this..."

I don't want to sound bad or insensitive at all here, but what really gets me is my friend was so excited about the Bears being in the playoffs that he even put a Bears video on his Myspace page.... he was a die hard bears and Cub fan...I know the Cubs will have another angel in the outfield pulling for him up there this year...and I have no doubt he and Harry will be kicking back with a few brewskies up there during the season watching hopefully Heaven on Earth!

[HOLYCOW!25]

That's the thing about suicide. People rarely ever see it coming.


And I don't really think music would do that to him. I mean, I listen to a lot of metal, so do my friends. Sure, some of it sounds angry and stuff, but it's not like we are. I don't think the music he listened to caused him to do it, I think the song he put there was just reflecting his mood.

[scuba]

Wow, Heather, sorry to hear that. Two sad stories in such a short period of time. Sounded like a real nice guy. Let's hope the Bears can give him a win this weekend.

And, DLee, don't worry about not being on here. Life is tough sometimes. Nothing wrong with taking some time for yourself to mourn.

[ryno4ever]

Thanks, Scuba.

[DLee25]

thanks alot scuba

not to get off subject, are you by any chance a basketball official for the state? there is one we had the other night that looked just like you lol. man he made bad calls.

[scuba]

Nope, not me DLee. You guys wouldn't believe how often I get the "you look familiar" thing. I just have one of those looks I guess. ;)

[DLee25]

LOL, it was quite funny. I am like that guy looks like the FogPog admin, I kept lookin at him, I seriously think during warm ups i mumbled fogpog to see if i got a reaction. I didn't. He sucked at officiating though.